Emotional Intelligence – Clearing Our Memory edges

Emotional Intelligence – Clearing Our Memory edges

Have you ever caught yourself being propelled back to a specific time in your past and suddenly, what seems a mind-picture, a mental snapshot, brings back forgotten feelings and emotions… as real as if you were nevertheless there?

It is as if, already though much time may have passed between this mental picture and where you are today, between the person then and the person you have become, that memory nevertheless has a strong keep up on you.

If the memory is good, then all the feelings surrounding it give you a sense of well being, happiness, peace, comfort or fondness; but if the memory is not a positive one, then you feel those butterflies in your stomach, your heart pounds, feelings start bubbling up… and suddenly your day has been ruined irreversibly, or you pick a fight with a loved one or simply, you feel heavy and down.

Do you ever surprise why this happens and how does it work?

Well, I am here to put my little penny worth. The other day I caught myself reliving one of these very clear images and suddenly, I was 14 again. It is as if no time had passed: I was transported to the time and place of the memory. Luckily, it was a good one and I have done great amount of self-healing so the emotions and feelings attached were pleasant and neutral (that’s to say, not charged); I was able to look at the past and none of the unresolved baggage or the peripheral issues within that age popped up, as it happens whenever I am ready for more healing. But because I caught myself seeing it, feeling it and thinking it, I purposely held on to it while I waited for answers or inspiration on the matter. I, once again, was like a dog with a bone, determined to clear however another metaphysical or vigorous mystery.

We all know about chakras, or at the minimum, have heard what they are: energy spinning wheels that link the physical body to the lighter energy bodies that our aura is made up of. One of these chakras is called the Solar Plexus and it is placed at the mouth of the stomach, just at the bottom of the sternum or chest flat bone.

Each chakra also has a colour and, consequently, resonates with anything of the same color or vibration: food, clothes, ecosystem … so we can alter the workings, speed and spin of our chakras by altering the colours that surround us. We can then change the related emotions and the way we feel at the present time about a past experience, which, for all facts, changes our present reality when we shift an old behavioural pattern. The Solar Plexus colour in particular is yellow.

So let’s dive into this yellow whirl-pool and go for a trip to the past.

We mostly think that our memories are stored in our brain, so when there are unpleasant parts of our life that we want to block, we store them in a portion of our brain, lock the door and throw the meaningful away hoping we never have to confront them or deal with them again. But because we are psychosomatic units (the mind affects the body and the body affects the mind) unfortunately we are not able to do this for ever, already if we manage to do so for a while. In any case, while we are doing this, we are creating a block of energy that affects our body in proportion with the amount of time we keep up on to it or refuse to integrate it into our mind/body/spirit structure.

However, not all the memories are stored in our minds: our whole body, every single cell in it, is alive and has intelligence… and each one of them also holds memories. So when we are refusing or unable to deal with a certain memory, the energy gets confined and a shadow (a hidden part of us we are not recognizing) is produced, not just in the part of our mind where it is locked but also in the corresponding organs and other bodily roles (blood circulation, nervous or lymphatic systems, etc).

Since the body roles as a unit, we cannot cut off a part of it without the rest feeling it, responding to it. Firstly, one can’t heal the Solar Plexus area if a certain amount of healing hasn’t taken place in the Heart chakra.

The Heart chakra is the centre of compassion and unconditional love. The first rule for healing oneself is compassion towards the self: to look back at the past and realise that we did the best we could with the tools we had at the time. In hindsight, everyone could have done better or would/not have said/done that, I would have done it in a different way… When we feel compassion for ourselves, forgiveness starts and the Heart chakra expands. Every time this happens, the Ego looses some grip in our psyche and the healthier Higher Self merges further within our physical being. As this takes place, like in a waterfall, love starts pouring out and affects the rest of our chakra system

The Solar Plexus is the chakra closest below the Heart chakra. It is the centre of personal strength, self-esteem and self-worth. When love pours from the chakra above, it starts releasing crystallized memories and we find ourselves going back into a frozen past stored there and relive in any case inner of reality is next due to be healed, assimilated or reintegrated.

We work on our chakras in layers and cycles. We don’t clear one chakra completely and others stay totally confined, for example. We release some fear of survival from our Root chakra and this leads us to enjoy life more, consequently raising the vibration of our Second chakra, which makes us feel better about ourselves and about life (raises our self-esteem) so it heals some of our Solar Plexus, which makes us feel less threatened by life and our fellow humans raising the level of love in our relationships, shifting our Heart chakra, which helps us to communicate our truth better, consequently opening up the Throat chakra… you see the picture.

So going back to the original question, what is Emotional Intelligence? A term widely used nowadays but not something that gets taught at school or university, nor something that one can learn and apply a formula.

According to the dictionary, Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, is an awareness of and ability to manage emotions and create motivation.

As we have said, because the emotions live in the Solar Plexus exactly as they were recorded at the moment of the related event, we are, in an Emotional Intelligence sense, children. Or, put in another way, we are not emotionally mature. That is, until we release the stored layers of memories and are able to neutralize, assimilate or integrate the associated energies. And, like children, we tend to re-act (act-again or repeat an old pattern of behaviour) instead of create (act in a new manner) to current events by the filters of the old emotions stored in the Solar Plexus.

Emotions stored in the Solar Plexus are either love-based or fear-based. Fear-based emotions depress this centre and love-based ones expand, increase its speed and make this centre more vibrant and colourful, healthier… which we experience as healthy self-esteem and, consequently, emotional maturity.

Solar Plexus

In Letter to Earth, Elia Wise tells us: “When you recreate the variables of a past moment of experience your current subjectivity costumes them in such a way that the historic incident need not be apparent. The combination of frequencies from the historic moment realigns you with the energy of that moment, providing an opportunity for healing and regeneration of the values that were originally impacted. the time of action is thoroughly subjective. Whether you are conscious or unconscious of having invoked the old, you are enabled by subjectivity to imbue its variables with new meanings. The way you internalize the stimuli of the new moment can transform the pain and significance of the old, creating a moment of instinctive healing. This is the alchemy of instinctive self-healing. It happens frequently throughout your life, although usually without your awareness”.

I have lately been by a rather big shift in consciousness (You can read about it in my article The Shift: A Breakthrough with my 9 month old Baby – http://www.ideamarketers.com) which started as a burst-open Heart chakra. At the time I didn’t think anything of it because it takes me a while to integrate new feelings and emotions produced by shifts in my mindset or as a consequence of seemingly instinctive moments of enlightenment.

But after just a short while, memories of my childhood started to come up: I started to remember melodies and words, complete nursery songs I hadn’t heard or sung for 2 or 3 decades (I have been living oversea for 20 years!); school names, surnames and nicknames of the girls there; events taken place in the past that I had forgotten; names and characters from cartoons and children television programs I used to watch… I already remembered Mary Poppins Supercalifragilisticespialidocious song in Spanish! (How can this be, I wondered, when all the Disney videos I possess are in English!?). Just another mystery!

except the sheer shock of how much we keep up in our memory edges of the Solar Plexus, one thing stood out: none of my memories were charged. They were all pleasant, or amusing, or comical, or nice… but none of them made me long to be back there and live by those times again, neither made me hate something or someone from those times. There were no negative emotions connected to them. They were just memories, and some of them I have reintegrated in my present life because I think they are wonderful stories and songs to tell my daughter during her childhood!

The Solar Plexus is the home of our emotions, and emotions are energy-in-motion. It is our strength centre and the universal receiver. We get lots of gut feelings and intuitions by this chakra. This is the place where we store our fears and the place where we link with others at an intuitive level. When someone upsets us, when we are worried, when we receive a shock… this is the centre where all it gets stored. Layers and layers of memories and issues that, if they are not resolved, cleared, released and/or re-membered, block our energy on the way up towards our Heart chakra and the other upper chakras, those which spiritually more evolved and energetically lighter, consequently preventing us from hearing our intuition or inner guidance.

Because the emotional memories stored in the Solar Plexus don’t move on in time, they crystallize as a mental snapshot taken by our mind and relate to certain emotions, feelings, colours, flavours, smells… or all of the above! Years may pass by and we think we have grown up… just to find, when the next learning cycle comes along and with it, unresolved lessons from the past, that we are back exactly where we started. The good thing is that when the memories come up again, it is because we may have gathered enough tools that will allow us to release them, heal them, integrate them… in general, dealing with them somehow… that is, unless we continuously avoid facing them and repeatedly suppress them.

These memories want our attention, they want to be recognised, and when we don’t do this, they grow in strength by stealing energy from our physical, mental, emotional or spiritual system. This makes us weaker and, sometimes, already pushes us to implode (as opposite to expand and grow). And as we get more and more drained, wondering where we are going wrong, sometimes we have to create a big breakdown if this whole scenario is happening at an unconscious level, forcing us to deal with them, to confront them head on.

So there we are, suddenly caught in time because something in our present life has pulled us back into one of these memories. They feel so alive; they don’t want to loose their grip on us. We want to release them but the feelings come up in complete force and we can’t confront going by the same pain again (or the same unpleasant emotion that is crystallized within the memory). Most people, at this time, turn their backs on this healing course of action because it is unpleasant or plainly painful, but the energy of the anger, fear, guilt or any other disempowering emotion attached to it is vibrant and powerful. At this stage, if we cannot do it by ourselves, we need some external help (a counsellor or healer of some sort, including those of the different and the mainstream ways of thinking – each person will be drawn to those who can help him or her at that given moment – trust your intuition).

It is at this time when we need to stay with it: feel the feelings, allow the energy of the stored emotions to circulate throughout our body. Help yourself with meditation, visualisation, breathing techniques or any other self-healing modality you are familiar with. Staying with the feelings allow the negative patterns to lose their grip on us so we can transform them into healthier energy. It is only this way that we can increase our personal strength.

Suddenly, you can see the past in another colour: the colour of the truth. It is like cleaning the windows of your energy field. By seeing the past in a different way, it also changes the way we see our present and it offers us more options as how to look at the future.

In my case, I suddenly have become that child again and have this uncontrollable need to knit, play, dance, travel, do fun things, expand, paint. I can truly say that I feel 10 years younger! (maybe I have become 10 years younger?)… basically, the things I used to do alternation to my now.

Yes, it can be hard work… but I really think that it is worth it. Not only it buys you more energy but it also allows you to enjoy your life in a free and naïve manner, just like it was when you were a child!

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