Your Legal Rights in a Living-Together Relationship – shared Law Marriage

Your Legal Rights in a Living-Together Relationship – shared Law Marriage




This article is intended for anyone involved in a long-term, committed relationship, who has never been formally married, and wants to know his or her rights. Whether your relationship recently ended, it’s in crisis, or you just want to know whether being formally married makes a difference in this day and age, you’ll probably be surprised by what the law provides.

One shared misconception is a belief that there is little legal difference between marriage and living together. This sometimes arises out of the mis belief that after a period of cohabitation (frequently believed to be seven years), a living-together relationship is immediately metamorphosed into a shared law marriage. This myth, though it has the persistence of urban legend, is pure fiction. In truth, you cannot go into into a shared law marriage within the boundaries of New York State. And, shared law marriage has become less and less favored across the nation over the past hundred or so years.

According to my most recent research, there are only ten jurisdictions that continue to recognize shared law marriage (Alabama, Colorado, Iowa, Kansas, Montana, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Texas, Utah and the District of Columbia), and five others that do so, but only if the relationship was established prior to a certain date (Pennsylvania, Georgia, Idaho, Ohio and Oklahoma). There are a few countries that also recognize shared law marriage, or a position similar to shared law marriage.

Here in New York, shared law marriage has not been legally sanctioned since 1933. But the inquiry doesn’t quite end there. There are several states, New York being among them, that recognize shared law marriage relationships that were established while the parties resided or sojourned in other places, namely in one of the aforementioned shared law marriage jurisdictions. So, despite the abolition of shared law marriage in 1933, our courts continue to recognize shared law marriages that were established in other jurisdictions. And, this may be the case already where the associate only temporarily sojourned in such jurisdiction, all the while maintaining their domicile in New York.

In such instances, the court’s determination of whether a shared law marriage was established will hinge on the legal standards of the particular state where the parties sojourned. These standards and precedent vary from state to state. And, contrary to shared law marriage folklore, shared law marriage states look to more than just whether the associate attained their seventh year of living together.

Some legal factors that are considered meaningful in shared law marriage states are: (i) the amount of time spent in the state; (ii) whether the parties “held themselves out” as husband and wife; (iii) whether they functioned as an economic entity; (iv) whether they ever entered into an agreement stating their intent to be considered married (already though they never formally wed); (v) whether either of the parties was married to someone else at the time; and (vi) whether the parties truly physically resided together. Lastly, in each of these states, historically you’ve needed to be of opposite sexes.

Contrastingly, factors that typically won’t be considered meaningful (factors I might continue bear more directly on notions of fairness) include (i) sacrifices made by either party in entering into the relationship (what lawyers call “detrimental reliance”), (ii) the standard of living enjoyed by the parties, (iii) whether one partner might not be able to sustain that lifestyle after separation (or already sustain himself or herself period), and (iv) whether there were children of the relationship.

This issue most recently garnered public attention in New York when the noticeable film actor, William Hurt, was brought into court by his then ex-girlfriend, an actress and dancer by the name of Sandra Jennings. The decision in that case underscored, among other things, how crucial issues of credibility can be.

The shared law marriage jurisdiction involved was South Carolina, where the parties had sojourned during the filming of “The Big Chill”. The crux of Ms. Jennings’ claim was that during an argument, Mr. Hurt told her that, “as far as he was concerned, we were married in the eyes of God”, that they had “a spiritual marriage”, and “were more married than married people.” Mr. Hurt, for his part, denied ever making these statements. There was also uncontradicted evidence that the parties never held themselves out as a married associate, already while cohabiting on location in South Carolina. however, the parties did have a child together.

In the appellate court decision, which dismissed all of Ms. Jennings’ causes of action (Jennings v. Hurt, 554 N.Y.S.2d 220), the Court made particular observe of the following facts: (i) that Ms. Jennings had never mentioned any conversation regarding an alleged “spiritual marriage” during her pre-trial deposition; and (ii) that a document, which Ms. Jennings had allegedly signed her name to as “Hurt”, was in fact an changed copy on which the name “Hurt” had been inserted.

As to the legal showing that was required under South Carolina law, the Court held that a shared law marriage proponent must establish “an intention on the part of both parties to go into into a marriage contract…with such clarity on the part of the parties that marriage does not crawl up on either of them and catch them unawares.” The evidence on this point, i.e., factors suggesting that neither of the parties considered themselves to be married, or held themselves out as such, also seemed to favor Mr. Hurt.

Another illustration of how difficult it can be to establish a shared law marriage in a non-shared law marriage state such as New York, involves one of my situations, which I’ll call A vs. A (I represented the claimant putative shared law wife). In A vs. A, believing strongly in the case, we chose to first proceed solely under a shared law marriage cause of action, forsaking in the first example pleading non-marital causes of action, so as not to weaken the shared law marriage claim. afterward, with permission of the Court, we additional several non-marital causes of action to Mrs. A’s complaint. It was these claims, instead of the shared law marriage cause of action, that ultimately served as her basis for recovery.

I am sure you will understand, from already a fleeting recitation of the facts, why we initially believed that Mrs. A’s case for shared law marriage was a strong one. Most strikingly, Mr. and Mrs. A held themselves out as a married associate for more than thirty years. They also raised a child together (by then a grown woman), who was always led to believe that her parents were duly married. Each party wore wedding-style rings on the appropriate finger. In fact, no more than a handful of close friends and family ever knew the parties were not formally married. They were referred to in every writing, every joint account, every tax filing, etc., as Mr. and Mrs. A. And, Mrs. A had already legally changed her last name to A fifteen years earlier, upon becoming a naturalized citizen.

Further, Mr. A always told Mrs. A that they had no need to formalize their marital position, allegedly because they were in all respects a married associate. According to Mr. A, what was “his was hers”, and when they “got old”, they would get formally married. Needless to say, that day never came. Indeed, on the precipice of retirement age, Mr. A initiated their separation. By then, they’d established a more than comfortable lifestyle (including residence in a $1.5 Million penthouse apartment), a lifestyle that Mrs. A certainly couldn’t continue on her own. And, all that Mr. A was initially offering to Mrs. A was a $50,000 per year stipend, for which in return he asked Mrs. A to quietly walk away from their thirty-plus year relationship.

The parties had also traveled widely, though they lived within the same borough of New York City for the entirety of their relationship. however, fatally to Mrs. A’s claim, the only shared law marriage jurisdiction that they had traveled to was Washington, D.C. On this point, the Court’s decision, granting Mr. A’s motion for dismissal of the shared law marriage cause of action, focused on the District of Columbia’s requirement that the parties to an alleged shared law marriage must have done more than just cohabited as husband and wife; they must have cohabited after expressly agreeing, “in words of the present tense”, to become “man and wife”.

Rejecting our arguments, the estimate held that this agreement must have been truly and clearly stated while the parties were physically present within the confines of Washington, D.C. It was inconsequential that the parties had clearly made this kind of an avowal in other places. Because Mrs. A could not assert that she and Mr. A clearly made this kind of an avowal, or already reiterated it, while physically present in D.C., her cause of action was deemed inadequate. despite, Mrs. A prevailed in that portion of the Court’s decision that refused to dismiss several of her non-marital causes of action.

Conclusion

If you’ve concluded that your relationship might meet the legal criteria for shared law marriage, I strongly recommend that you speak to a lawyer (preferably a family law specialist). And, for advice that you can rely on, you should plan to set aside at the minimum a few hundred dollars for the cost of a consultation and additional legal research. The good news: if your relationship is found to be a shared law marriage, you will generally have the same rights and obligations as every other divorcing spouse in this State.

however, if you’ve determined that your relationship is doubtful to qualify for shared law marriage treatment (already though it may be one of meaningful financial interdependence), then I suggest that you read Part II of this article, which discusses a variety of other legal concepts that may be applicable to your living-together relationship.




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